Ms. Cinebitch,
I have been obsessed with the current public perception of marriage
lately. It seems to me that the idea of marriage has become more
conservative with certain segments of the population calling marriage
a union between only a man and a woman, while others argue for gay
marriage. Personally, I think the entire idea of marriage is ridiculous
for anyone. Can you tell me if you think the perception of marriage
in film has made this same transformation?
Thank you,
Living single in A2
Well, well, well, took a big swig of bitter juice this morning,
didn’t we? I suggest you bring my bottle back immediately
or sooner. Without it, I start to enjoy other people’s company,
which invariably leads to something bad.
As a woman, and a bitch, I am sick and tired of the way marriage
is portrayed in movies. I am disgusted at the importance sexual
attractiveness plays in the “Hollywood marriage model”
as well. Hollywood loves marriage because it sells movies, both
in the actual films and beyond to celebrity images. Look at the
crazy Tom Cruise and his pointy-toothed girlfriend, Katie Holmes.
This insane coupling has led to a number of juicy publicity opportunities
which probably leave the heads of studios spinning with excitement.
Would these same studio heads be as happy if crazy Tom Cruise finally
admitted out loud that he is gay and introduced us to the boyfriend
he probably keeps tied up under his bed? That’s right. Bring
on the lawsuit, crazy Tom! Bring it!
I have no idea why the gays keep barking about wanting
the right to be married. Gay men, what the hell is wrong with you
people? Oh I know one of your arguments . . . the tax break. Well,
you know what? Shut up. Gay men are a household with two “man
incomes,” you don’t need the tax break.
Lesbians? They need the tax break. They have two “woman incomes.”
So tax break, smax break. I want to fight for the lesbians. There
should be a special lesbian tax break.
Cinebitch digresses. I believe Hollywood loves marriage,
good, bad, gay, straight, and all things in between. Why? Well,
it sure as hell isn’t because the studio heads think love
is important. No, it’s cashmoney. That is what drives them.
So be careful about which movies you spend your money on, because
that is how you send messages to Hollywood.
However, what is important for all thinking people
to remember is that the Hollywood image of marriage and relationships
is not a good one. If we accepted the Hollywood definition of healthy
relationships we would all think couples like Tom Cruise and Katie
Holmes have something real. In reality what they have is a relationship
of control: Tom is controlling a woman much younger than himself.
It is a sickness which is running through Hollywood, and as a result
seems normal to much of the younger movie generation. Look, I sound
like someone’s grandma! What about the kids???!!
Do I think the idea of marriage in film has changed?
In some ways, yes and in other ways no. Films reflect the culture
in which they are made, therefore they often change with the political
tide. However, I would like filmmakers and studios to take more
responsibility for what their films say about marriage and relationships
in general.
I would be much happier with Hollywood if they made
movies about real love in all its glory and ugliness. Love is universally
something we are all looking for whether we admit it out loud or
not. Mbien?
Love?
Laurita
Email
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