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A couple of weeks ago I found myself at karaoke night at a martini bar with a very sweet young man. In the course of our chit-chatting he drew my attention to two girls dancing very closely in the middle of the room. Both were clad in current overgrown schoolgirl fashion, small pleated skirts et al. Arms around each other and giggling, foreheads pressed together and hips gyrating in sync as they got closer and closer to the ground, they gave the impression of knowing each other quite well. “Look, they have to be lesbians, right?” he asked. “No, they’re just trying to get male attention by pretending they’re about to make out. A straight couple wouldn’t get hot and heavy in the middle of a room just for the attention, what makes you think a lesbian couple would?” “Would girls do that even if they weren’t actually attracted to each other, or curious?” “You don’t know girls. They know exactly what they’re doing.” “You’re
probably right... But I fall for it every time!” Slightly
dejected, he sat back to watch and hope. I asked my guy friends what is so hot about watching two straight girls kiss in public or act like they might, and found a couples of themes repeated: Two girls making out signals a lack of sexual inhibition and indicates threesome potential. “You couldn’t really be happy about a cute girl kissing another guy because if you like her you’d be pissed she’s not kissing you,” said one friend. “Watching her kiss a girl is a way for you to witness her inhibitions fall away, without the disadvantage of having to see her make out with some gross guy.” Also, there is always the potential of their willingness to let you interact: “If two girls are so experimental that they like kissing other girls, they probably wouldn’t mind bringing you in on it,” one guy explained. Another friend agrees. “If you look at two straight girls kissing they are usually doing it just to tease you. Then there’s both the ‘let’s make out with each other just because there aren’t any boys to kiss’, and the horribly teasing move when they kiss, maintain eye contact with you and wordlessly propose a smooth threesome. “ A girlfriend pointed out that boys find girls attractive, so it makes sense that they’re turned on by girl-on-girl. My guy friend concurred, stating watching two girls kiss “is like having two dollars instead of one.” These are the first three responses when I started asking female friends, “why do girls kiss?”: “To
get guys hot.” However, my friend Lauren pointed out that there is attraction and curiosity between women that cannot be dismissed. Most of us are seasoned to be obsessed with our own beauty and appearance. Having been brought up to keenly observe what is beautiful and what isn’t, we can’t help but project these opinions on other women and easily recognize sexiness and attractiveness in each other. On a daily basis we touch shiny hair, stroke smooth hands, smell wrists and share soft-lip tips. As a result, on some level most of us are mysteriously attracted to girls to a certain extent. My dependably coherent friend Sarah concurs, saying that girl-on-girl action is not always for men’s benefit. There are other catalysts that trigger a straight-girl makeout, like alcohol. Girls tend to be physically affectionate in general, some more so when a bit tipsy. Kissing also just feels warm and nice. In addition, the safety of it is appealing. If a woman just wants some physical affection, snuggling up to a girlfriend is so much less risky than doing the same with a guy. There is no chance that things will go too far and you’ll end up naked and feeling like a tramp the next day. So. Boys like to watch girls kiss because they think we’re hot and they want to join in. Girls kiss other girls because it feels good, we think we’re hot too, and we like the attention. My investigation did not serve to clear up any great mysteries, but does bring me to what I hope is an interesting (and helpful) conclusion: If we all like girl-on-girl action so much, why doesn’t it happen more often? Women should be kissing each other willy-nilly! Here is my word of advice for my female readership: When searching for a girl to kiss in public, it is important to find one that will think as little of it as you do, and, of course, one who is remarkably pretty. It makes for a better show. A2P Email
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